While many look forward eagerly to the coming of Christmas, there are those among us who dread the endless rounds of social gatherings or perhaps even worse, the staying home alone while others party.
If ever there is a time when you can feel the negative hit of being single it is during the ‘festive season’.
Let’s talk about why we get caught up in these feelings and what we can do to change it.
Step 1. See the holidays as an opportunity to get lucky in love.
Step 2. Prepare to dazzle anyone you might meet by bringing out your best self.
Step 3. Forget about how things have been in the past – today is a whole new day.
Here is a fact – “You will never meet anyone who loves you more than you love yourself.”
So start right now today to change the way you feel about yourself. Almost everyone spends more time criticizing themselves than loving and appreciating themselves. You need to understand that you are lovable exactly as you are, but if you don’t see it neither will anybody else. In other words what I’m saying is that you will make finding love so much faster and easier when you love yourself.
Charisma – that special something that makes certain people attractive to others is the result of being comfortable in your own skin, loving yourself so much that the good feelings that it generates radiate out into the world drawing people to you.
The Holidays are not something to be dreaded, but instead an opportunity to interact with more people and give them the opportunity to see what you have to offer. If you want a magic wand, here it is. Learn to love yourself unconditionally. It’s that easy. There are methods you can use, simple, easy ways to discover what you really feel about yourself and then methods to change it. You need to be your own best friend and cheerleader. Anyone can do it. It just takes a little time and concentrated effort. It takes letting go of all the preconceived ideas you may have about yourself.
Once you do, you won’t have to look for love, it will find you.
Virtually all of us spend more time criticizing ourselves and blaming ourselves than we do loving, praising and appreciating ourselves. You will never find someone who loves and appreciates you more than you do. That is a fact. What we put out into the world comes back to us. That includes feelings of insecurity, and unworthiness.
That’s why it is so important to change your mantra. There are literally thousands of good books available on this topic. Books written by such people as Wayne Dyer, Joel Osteen, Louise Hay just to name a few that can help you to quickly create and adopt a new mantra. Check them out. Or, of course, you can check out my offering on this subject, The Secret to Finding Love, which is now available on Kindle at http://www.amazon.com/Secret-Finding-Love-Attract-Soulmate/dp/1438948697/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1350681739&sr=1-1&keywords=Carol+M+Barrett
It doesn’t matter where your search begins as long as you give yourself this gift of self-love. It will change everything.
Get rid of all the garbage in your life to make room for the love. Start now and it can make this Holiday Season one that will bring you a gift that can last a lifetime – the gift of love.