Welcome.  My name is Carol M Barrett and I am the author of The Secret to Finding Love, a step by step manual that provides concise, proven advice about finding love in this fast paced, demanding world.  I’ve begun this blog as a way of  interacting with those of you who are interesting in exploring the challenges that finding love can bring.

If you are having trouble attracting that special guy, you are not alone.  Finding the right man, the one you will want to spend your life with, can be quite a feat, but it doesn’t have to be.  To help eliminate some of the frustration and confusion that I know exists, I have created a series of free videos which are available publicly in which I discuss some of the top reasons that love can be so hard to find and how you can know if they are sabotaging your dream.

If you’d like to have a copy of these videos, you can check them out on YouTube.  Additionally I will be posting articles here as often as possible and would love to answer any questions you might have.  Feel free to leave a comment or question any time.

I’ll look forward to talking with you again soon.


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Do You Know Bob Proctor?

I expect that you do know Bob Proctor, one of the starring teachers of the movie The Secret, but just in case let me give you a little introduction.  Bob Proctor is one of the most influential success coaches in the world.  He has spent more than 50 years using and sharing the secrets to creating a life filled with dreams come true.  Many people believe that working with and learning from Bob Proctor is out of their reach financially and for these people Bob has created a new opportunity for us to learn from him that is affordable for everyone (it can even be free!).  I am so excited about this opportunity that’s been given to me that I wanted to share it with you.  Here is the link to find out more at zero cost to you.


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Carol’s Latest Interview

I have just had an interview in which I discuss One More Miracle with Indieauthorland.  You can read it here – http://www.indieauthorland.com/archives/category/romance

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Finding Love During the Holidays

While many look forward eagerly to the coming of Christmas, there are those among us who dread the endless rounds of social gatherings or perhaps even worse, the staying home alone while others party.

If ever there is a time when you can feel the negative hit of being single it is during the ‘festive season’.

Let’s talk about why we get caught up in these feelings and what we can do to change it.

Step 1.  See the holidays as an opportunity to get lucky in love.

Step 2.  Prepare to dazzle anyone you might meet by bringing out your best self.

Step 3.  Forget about how things have been in the past – today is a whole new day.

Here is a fact – “You will never meet anyone who loves you more than you love yourself.”

So start right now today to change the way you feel about yourself.  Almost everyone spends more time criticizing themselves than loving and appreciating themselves.  You need to understand that you are lovable exactly as you are, but if you don’t see it neither will anybody else.  In other words what I’m saying is that you will make finding love so much faster and easier when you love yourself.

Charisma – that special something that makes certain people attractive to others is the result of being comfortable in your own skin, loving yourself so much that the good feelings that it generates radiate out into the world drawing people to you.

The Holidays are not something to be dreaded, but instead an opportunity to interact with more people and give them the opportunity to see what you have to offer.  If you want a magic wand, here it is.  Learn to love yourself unconditionally.  It’s that easy.  There are methods you can use, simple, easy ways to discover what you really feel about yourself and then methods to change it.  You need to be your own best friend and cheerleader.  Anyone can do it.  It just takes a little time and concentrated effort.  It takes letting go of all the preconceived ideas you may have about yourself.

Once you do, you won’t have to look for love, it will find you.

Virtually all of us spend more time criticizing ourselves and blaming ourselves than we do loving, praising and appreciating ourselves.  You will never find someone who loves and appreciates you more than you do.  That is a fact.  What we put out into the world comes back to us.  That includes feelings of insecurity, and unworthiness.

That’s why it is so important to change your mantra.  There are literally thousands of good books available on this topic.  Books written by such people as Wayne Dyer, Joel Osteen, Louise Hay just to name a few that can help you to quickly create and adopt a new mantra.  Check them out.  Or, of course, you can check out my offering on this subject, The Secret to Finding Love, which is now available on Kindle at http://www.amazon.com/Secret-Finding-Love-Attract-Soulmate/dp/1438948697/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1350681739&sr=1-1&keywords=Carol+M+Barrett

It doesn’t matter where your search begins as long as you give yourself this gift of self-love.  It will change everything.

Get rid of all the garbage in your life to make room for the love.  Start now and it can make this Holiday Season one that will bring you a gift that can last a lifetime – the gift of love.

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What do you want?

Love?  OK.  But what does the word love mean to you.  Before you can find something, anything, you need to know what you are looking for.  Otherwise, trying to find it will be much more difficult than you would expect.

In this regard, here is a tip that you can use today.

If you are serious about finding love, take a bit of time to figure out what your definition of love is or what love means to you.  Then sit quietly, alone, where you won’t be interrupted for half an hour or so and ponder the question.

Allow the question to roll around in your mind.  Try to create a peaceful picture in your mind of a green field, blue sky, shimmering lake or anything else that helps you quiet your mind.

Don’t try to force an answer to your question.  Don’t struggle to come up with an answer.  Just allow the question to answer itself.  It is a good idea to have a notebook and pen handy so that when the answers begin to flow you can write them down.

Don’t prejudge the answers, just write whatever comes into your head.  Continue writing until you have run out of thoughts on the subject.

Next ask yourself, “What can I do to help me connect with the relationship that I am wanting?  What simple things that I am not doing now, that I have been unable to see and appreciate, can I do to bring the love that I want quickly and easily.”

Again, go through the process of sitting with your notebook, quieting your mind and then writing the ideas that come.  Don’t make the mistake of prejudging the thoughts and ideas.  Just let them flow and record them.

When the session is over, read your answers.  You will be amazed and surprised at the wisdom that they contain.  Give it a try.  I use it all the time in every area of my life and it is truly incredible how it changed my life.

If you want to learn more about The Secret to Finding Love you can go to my website, www.thesecrettofindinglove2.com

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The Secret to Finding Love Isn’t a Secret Anymore!

If you are still waiting for your soulmate to arrive, and wondering what’s taking him so long, I can help.

I’ve been married for thirty-six years to the same wonderful man.  Sometimes it’s hard for me to believe that it’s been that long.  It seems like only yesterday I was a lonely young woman wondering if love would ever come into my life.

It did and it stayed.

That can happen for you too.  Love doesn’t have favorites.  It wants to be part of everyone’s life and attracting it is easier than you think.

There is someone for everyone and that means there is someone for you.  The trick is aligning your lives so that you find one another.  That may mean doing things a little differently than what you’ve done in the past.

Through 30 years of study and research, I have learned how it’s done, how the people who have it all, have gotten it.   I haven’t just learned this secret, I’ve used it to create the life of my dreams and I’ve shared it with others and watched them do the same.Carol M Barrett I know the steps that I have outlined work; they’ve worked for others and they can work for you.  I’ve uncovered this secret and put it in six simple steps that anyone can follow quickly and easily.  I’d love to share the secret with you.

I am exploring this topic right here and will continue to share ideas and tips with you, but if you’d like to get the whole story right now my book The Secret to Finding Love is available in paperback or kindle version at Amazon.com by copying and pasting the URL below to your browser.


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Finding Love – Let’s Talk About

There are many things that I can and will talk about here in my blog but I would much rather listen to what you have to say and answer your specific questions.  Over the years I have come to understand that nothing is more irrelevant than what I think you want.

What does matter is what you really want.  So I want to invite you to use the comment box to ask any questions you may have about finding love, about attracting your soulmate, about the relationship you now have or anything else that matters to you.  I will then focus my discussion on what it is that you want to know.

Finding and keeping love is supposed to be easy.  Let’s talk about the things that can be done to make it that way.

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Having the Relationship You Want is Easier Than You Might Think


Do you have the relationships you want?  Our lives are filled with relationships, aren’t they.  We have relationships with our family, our friends, our coworkers, and our lovers.  Whether you consider a relationship good or bad, you most likely feel that the quality of the relationship has to do with the person you are in the relationship with.  But have you considered that the common denominator in all your interactions with others is yourself?

With that in mind, let’s spend a bit of time looking at ourselves because when we understand ourselves, it is much easier to understand our relationships with others.

In last week’s article, I presented you with eight questions to consider, the first three of which were designed to have you look at yourself and how much you love yourself.  This has to be first because it is absolutely the key to having successful loving relationships.  Do you love yourself enough to be your true authentic self, to be genuine in all your encounters with others.  So many people focus all their attention on their appearance and they seem to forget that beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

Your soulmate is looking for someone just like you.  This means that looking like Jennifer Aniston or Angelina Jolie won’t bring your soulmate to you any faster than looking like you.  Oh sure, most men would have an instant attraction to this kind of beauty, but if they actually got to know them, would they really want to spend their life with them?  Most likely not.  A soulmate connection goes a lot deeper than that.

If you want to speed up the encounter that will unite you with your perfect mate, get to know yourself.  Be honest about who  you are and what you want.  Accept  yourself.  Accept the fact that you have always done your best based on what you knew and understood at the time.  Based on this it should be easy to forgive yourself for your so-called mistakes.  Understand that you didn’t come here to be perfect, just to be the perfect you. And that’s who you are.  Love yourself, flaws and all.  It’s what makes you human and interesting.

It’s what separates you from everybody else and what will allow you to attract the love you are waiting for.  Love yourself unconditionally and while you are at it, do the same for everyone in your life.  You’ll be amazed how much happier and at peace you will be if you can accomplish this one thing.  Take full responsibility for who you are and for your own happiness.  Your life will work best that way.

And remember, the more you love yourself, the happier you will be.  The happier you are, the more loveable you will be.  Isn’t that what you are looking for?  It’s what we are all wanting and it is easier than you think.  If you want to learn more about finding your soulmate, go to my website http://www.thesecrettofindinglove.com where you can get access to a series of free videos on the subject.

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